By Mary Layton
The practice of Self-Restraint
Several years ago I went to visit my Tai chi teacher who is a 3rd Generation Grandmaster of T’ai Chi. Upon entering his house I noticed a large Chinese calligraphy on the wall representing one of the most important principles of T’ai Chi : Self-Restraint. Next to the powerful looking character, was a poem written by Mr. Yip. When I asked my teacher what it meant he showed me an English translation of it. To make it more accessible I have changed its formal language to sound more like we talk today:
“It is better to yield in order to achieve peace.
Surrender your position to gain serenity.
Keep a golden silence to avoid making enemies.
Practice precious restraint in order to deserve happiness.
Give in a little and you will feel wonderfully at ease.
Spare a few words and you will be free of worry. Restrain yourself
and you will be happy as an angel.”
This sure is wonderful advice.
Restraining one’s emotions, desires, opinions and inclinations can be a remedy in resolving life’s challenges and brings about peace. Even in a crisis situation self-restraint makes me less impulsive, I take more time to think things over and then say or do the right thing. To walk away from a confrontation, to bow even when hurt or insulted takes strength. There are countless situations where this idea of self-restraint would be beneficial. It’s worth the try!
I will make Self-Restraint my New Year’s resolution.
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